having a pt live-in and dealing with roomates
I recently broached the subject of my boyfriend and I moving in together in the next few months. And he's saying he won't be able to afford it, and will probably move back in with his parents My problem is that right now, I'm in school and I don't have alot of money. He comes up every weekend, and we hang out, I pay for food and he drives me around. And we eat cheaply for the most part. Since he is also in school and all that I don't really mind too much that he's at my house all the time. The thing is, when he moves back in with his parents, he'll probably start staying at my place 3 or 4 nights a week, based on our current habits. I'm hoping to be working full time in a decent job by then, but there is also the option of doing my honours and I'm toying with the idea of doing another year of school. If I do, I'll probably be getting a place with someone else. Right now I have my own place, but it's too expensive to do long term. so my questions are these 1. Am I out of order to ask my boyfriend to help with bills? I mean if he's living with me about half the time, shouldn't he be contributing a little? 2. If he's not, how do I get him to not practically live at my house without be a heinous bitch and/or breaking up with him. 3. How do I broach this with roomates? My best friend and I are probably getting a place together, so then it wouldn't be a problem, but what if I don't get a place with him? Should I warn people ahead of time that my bf often stays over? How do I do that? Any suggestions are more than appriciated A edit: I forgot to metion, that I understand why he might be weary to move in together, as it can be a big step. See, it's probably more that being the issue than him 'not able to afford it' and I'm cool with that, but weary to let him have it both ways.