Relinquished garden :(
I'm so pissed. I've had a week to deal with this, and I'm still incredibly angry. My brand-new neighbors are reclaiming the flower beds in front of their apartment which I've been caring for over the last 9 months. It's like my arm has been cut off. I really don't mind turning the garden over to new people as long as they will build it and care for it. But my conversation with the new girl (one of two) about the garden was really weird, and I feel completely disrespected. The reason I claimed the space initially was because it borders one side of my front yard, and after living here for six months, it had gone untouched and one side remained completely barren, while the other side was neglected and overgrown. There are gardeners, but all they do is cut the small section of grass. I asked the girl that lived there if she minded if I planted some things (mentioning that I had already started - by cleaning up the area and transplanting some wandering jew seedlings into the old fountain in the corner). She said she'd noticed and didn't mind at all, and that the owner of the property (different owner than that of my property) was also supportive of the effort. I figured he would be, ahha, free landscape improvement! Nine months of hard work, and it is (was) still a work in progress. Just to give you a small example of one corner of the area: Here's the gardening-related part: I transformed this into this I was hesitant to plant any of my favorite plants in the ground, since it's not mine, and yes, I anticipated that new neighbors would eventually move in. So most of the stuff was just set in the fountain area in pots. Other areas not pictured were planted with cuttings and rhizomes I'd grown myself. In a terribly overgrown area to the right of their door (as you face it), I discovered a rich variety of plants, and cut back the overbearing plants to allow the deprived plants underneath to thrive. I found a previously undiscovered *rosebush* in there, fergodsakes. The very day these new girls moved in, they started moving my pots around. I figured I'd have a couple days before I had to bother talking to them about the garden. But I had to jump on it immediately, so they'd know they were moving MY plants that I purchased around. So I introduced myself, blah-de-blah, and said "I just wanted to let you know that I've been taking care of the garden here for a long time, and a lot of the plants are mine..." I meant to continue by saying "I don't mind keeping them over here, but I just want you to know which I'd like to take with me if I move...", etc. But she CUT ME OFF and said "Oh that's fine, just take back anything that's yours." I said "uhhh, okay, but we should get together and coordinate because..." and she cut me off again and said "Yeah, just take back anything that's yours, I like to do gardening, too" and my friend Marc who was with me said "Do you have a plan for it?" and she said "Naw, but I'll do something with it. Just go ahead and take back anything that's yours." I was crestfallen and completely annoyed with her communication style, so I just said "yeah, okay" and left. Later that night I took back all my potted plants. The problem is that I have a bunch of stuff planted in the beds, too. And I'm debating whether to try to talk to her about it again, because my plan was to say "Any of the stuff that's planted here you can keep if you like it, but if you want to replace anything please let me know so I can transplant it." But because I'm disturbed by the way it's gone, I'm thinking of just digging up everything that I grew there, and she can start from scratch again the way I did. I have a rare Friday off tomorrow, so...that would be the time to remove my plants from her area. I'm so hurt by the whole situation. Those plants are my babies, and I so enjoyed contributing to the overall look of the complex, at least in the area I have to look at when I walk out of my front door! Grrr. I have been reviewing other pictures I've taken of the area and it's just...really sucky to have it all taken away. I bought dirt and bricks and border stones for that place, overhauled the shape of the beds, etc. etc., I could ramble on about this forever. She was probably excited to have a such a nice garden to work with. But she doesn't seem to give a goddamn that *I* was the one who made it happen. So I childishly want to take it away from her. What would you do? [Edit] Thanks to everyone who replied. Now that I've got all the vindictive spite out of my system, I feel better about it and have found a good compromise.